As I do this I've discovered some blindingly obvious truths. Most of my goals involve my family, primarily my children. As a parent, you can't have a goal that causes direct results in their lives. For example, it is unrealistic for me to set a goal for my daughter to play premiere-level club soccer. I can't make that happen, she has to make that happen. In order for that to happen, it has to be one of her goals. Instead, as a parent, my goals are to see that they use good decision-making techniques in their lives. Here are some of the ones I've got as goals right now.
- See failure as a learning experience and not a disaster?
- React with grace and cleverness when things go wrong?
- Work hard at being good at something that others value? (This is the key to having choices in life.)
- Treat others with love and kindness and recognize that their talents are gifts from God? (Skills are not the same here - to me, a skill is a talent that you've worked to refine.)
- Are they exploring the things they love with a sense of freedom and joy? (Translated: "Turn the @*@*(! TV off and get yer lazy @ss outside!" Or something like that.)